Two of my colleagues are having an affair. I know they have told a couple of the young people that we work with. I don't think that they should be allowed to work with the young people until they sort themselves out. How should I manage the situation?
There are two issues here. First, the fact that your colleagues are having an affair in itself has nothing to do with you, notwithstanding any personal moral issues you might have with this. We all have different values but it is important to remain non-judgmental where the values of others do not match your own.
However, I can empathise with you: I recall experiencing a similar workplace situation where it had become uncomfortable to walk into any room in which the two people having the affair would be found on their own. Eventually, it was necessary to make them aware of the effect their behaviour was having on others.
Second, as you suggest, it is indeed inappropriate for them to be discussing this with clients, and they should be told as much.
Tracie Trimmer-Platman is senior lecturer in youth and community work at the University of East London. Email your workplace dilemmas to asktheexpertywn@hotmail.com
However, I can empathise with you: I recall experiencing a similar workplace situation where it had become uncomfortable to walk into any room in which the two people having the affair would be found on their own. Eventually, it was necessary to make them aware of the effect their behaviour was having on others.
Second, as you suggest, it is indeed inappropriate for them to be discussing this with clients, and they should be told as much.
Tracie Trimmer-Platman is senior lecturer in youth and community work at the University of East London. Email your workplace dilemmas to asktheexpertywn@hotmail.com
