Kind eyes – how do we replace judgment with curiosity?

I was inspired recently by Anjuma Begum. Anj is a care-experienced young adult who works in a home where children cared for live.  Anj plans to become an independent visitor to support other young adults who have experienced care and presented at the national independent visitors conference last week, she was incredible.  I shared that I was writing this blog and asked Anj if she wanted to share a message, this is what she said:

“When I was in residential care I was struggling with my mental health. I overdosed and was put into hospital with a drip. A staff member said to me ‘You are increasing pressure by wasting precious health care services.’  They could easily have asked if I was ok or why I was feeling how I did.  My message to everyone reading this is that professionals should face children with kind eyes and without judgment.  And start the relationship from there.”